What I want from the man I'm with.....
I'm not looking for someone who will raise hell if I talk about another guy, i don't want him to be possesive; but I want him to love me enough to go at least a slight shade of green.
I'm not looking for someone who will laugh at my shortcomings, but someone who will accept them as he will accept me. I don't expect him to change for me, just as I cannot change myself for him.
I am not looking for someone who will say, "Don't cry Anuya, its irritating", but for someone who will say, "Don't cry Anuya, it breaks my heart"
I am not looking for someone who will make jokes about my misery and frustration , just because he doesn't know how to deal with them. I don't expect him to solve my problems. I just want him to listen to me, because I need to talk.
I am not looking for someone who will take me for granted, I want him to be thoughtful and caring, despite of the number of years we have been together. I want him to be a wild romantic, someone who'd just land up on my doorstep one morning and decide that he's gonna whisk me off to Goa for the weekend. I want to find little post-it notes in my bag, which contain messages from him. I want him to love me enough to want to do all this for me.
I am not looking for someone who'd wouldnt care much about things that matter to me, or make me happy. I'd want him to find joy in my joy, just as I'd revel in his happiness.
I am not looking for someone who won't give everything he can to our relationship. I would give a hundred percent, and i 'd expect the same involvement from him.
I am not looking for someone who would give me as much importance in his life as any of his friends; he will be the most important person in my life, barring my family, and I would want him to think of me the same way.
Maybe I'm living a fairy-tale, I don't know. Maybe I'm expecting too much. Again, I don't know. I've experienced the giddiness of falling madly in love, and maybe I'm wishing for that kind of existence once again, I dont know.
I just want to be happy.
posted by Anuya at 9:35 AM
16 Comments:
*sigh*
fought?
relationships take a lot of tolerance from both sides...
its... impractical... AND unwise to want someone to follow you around and go with you everywhere you go... its much better if both of you can get along with each others friends and all hang out together... because im gonna make the assumption that you want someone with a personality of his own. Only poodle-minds readily agree to drop everything and wag their tails at your beck and call....
plus.. it makes the relationship boring... the *grovel grovel* "what can i do for you now, my dear?" type...
its fantastic to have someone care about you... but i think its also important that they maintain their individuality.... otherwise its like dating a damn mirror... or a cardboard box. and their friends are generally very crucial to their individualities.
but all this just adresses what you said here..
"I am not looking for someone who would give me as much importance in his life as any of his friends; he will be the most important person in my life, barring my family, and I would want him to think of me the same way."
i think everything else you expect is great >_< and if you find someone who can give you that, then grab him... but the above para was the only one that i would advise against taking to an extreme. obviously, he has to value you above the "friends" level... but that shouldnt mean he should forsake them for you completely. (it works the other way too.... you shouldnt forsake your real friends for anyone either.)
im pretty sure you can find people who will do all the things you said... so no. youre not living in a fairy-tale... but i can tell you one thing.... knowing you... you wont be happy at the end of it... unless the person has some... character.
:)
hope i helped.
~Om3n
ermmmm....
if it was posible, u ve just confused me further....:)
And no, I dont want hom to forsake his friends, its not like that, but i don't want him 2 treat me like i m one of them either.....
Also noweher in the post hv i mentioned that i want him to follow me around...So there.
And yes.....fought.
ouch.
did you and rohit break up?
we want many things in life.make do with what you have /love.
and yeah om3n,she did not say a word about her man following her everywhere ,lol.
no we didnt break up, nosy h3lios, or u would've gotten the news 4m nosy nova...hehe i like tat name.
we r jus havin complications, altho which relnship doesn???
one which has a clear line of communication;)
guys are dense
^truer worlds were never spoken
oh well, dont worry Anu...it'll pass...and as cliche as it might sound, things always do work out for the better
why thanks neha....
2 bad Mr.lame-excuse-h3lios didnt let us meet when u were in town, i think i d hv liked spendin time with u.
hey medusa,
sorry if i confused you but i wasnt saying that you WANT him to follow you wround... and i know exactly what youre saying...
im just saying that dont TAKE that expectation to a level where you expect such things.
if he starts treating you like a friend and theres no intimacy left... then theres something wrong.
but as long as you dont expect that... youre fine.
and i hope everythings settled now.
tc meds >_< (makes you sound like a druggie)
~Om3n
hehe okie... thanks mate
n u can call me anu, theres no need 4 the 'meds' bit....
"why thanks neha....
2 bad Mr.lame-excuse-h3lios didnt let us meet when u were in town, i think i d hv liked spendin time with u. " - Anu
same here...lets kill rishi :p
he didnt even meet me a second time with the lame excuse that he has a 'job'. i mean, is that a JOKE or what? RISHI has a JOB?!?! that just doesnt sound right...
He didnt even have time to call, and when I called him, he was watching SOUTHPARK! :@
hmmph!
halo...
hope everythings alright...
i'm really really sorry for not meeting up with ANYONE at all this summer( but i don't mind killing rishi anyway...what fun!!)
Fights happen. In fact, I've always believed that the more you fight, the more you love eachother, cos if you didn't fight, 'twud mean you didnt care enough to actually bother with how your relationship is going.
So fights are actually good in a roundabout way. Think of it liek that, n you'll be a lot happier.
hope we can meet before the hols are over...oh
i was at CENTERONE MALL, vashi past two days...for a shoot wth samsung..(see i TOLD you id make it to that side of town!!!!)
hehe
cheers!
WHOPPEE for tk!!!! She finally knows wat the other side of Bombay looks like, after living in bombay for 19 yrs, btw....
AND WHEN THE HELL R U GONNA B FREE!?!?!??!??!?!?!
how do u kno i am on xanga
ironic how these last 2 posts are so.... different.
oh well... i guess fights are a good sign from that perspective.... but still... theyre bad for you overall... waste your time, leave you stressed, depressed, etc.
overall... its better if you dont fight. but well... some things cant be avoided i guess. =\
~Om3n
well yeah fights are a good sign....
esp since u get 2 kiss n make up :)
evil i tell you..... women are scary.... and evil..... lol :P
have fun n all while i sit alone in this damn village.... working out of a shitty netcafe right now >_<
cheers
~Om3n
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